Write to taste life: sexy confidant challenge
If you’re unfamiliar with my most recent offering, my sensuality coaching, let me welcome you to this safe space. If you’re already acquainted with this erotic landscape, welcome back…
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This month’s blog post focuses on the ways we can utilise writing as a tool in sex and sensuality coaching.
"No tears in the writer, no tears in the reader. No surprise in the writer, no surprise in the reader."
The power of writing is undeniable. From freedom through to fascism, self-expression to self-flagellation, the ways we write impact us, deep into our cores. As a writer myself, libidinal poet, and academic, writing has shaped my identity, my career(s), and my most inner self. As a multilingual independent escort, writing to and with clients has deeply fascinated me. How we create our realities are shaped by our words, how we create our words are shaped by our realities.
Writing holds another power, too; the ability to create new realities, to expand ourselves and our sensual lives.
"Let me live, love, and say it well in good sentences."
Within my sensuality coaching, creative writing is a key tool with which we work together to expand your erotic horizons. Having someone holding space for you to make time to write for yourself, has been really beneficial for my clients. I start with a simple, yet extremely effective, process: one of the key elements it involves is positionality.
“I have to say this process was not at all what we expected. Partly because I was distracted with depression when my partner suggested we follow Leti’s program. Her guidance gave us both a focus. She is a well-trained, skilled practitioner who listens with a grounded presence. She generously shares her experiences and wisdom, as well as tools to deepen the process. Guiding us with magic and love helping, she took us on a journey we hope lasts for the rest of our lives.
Sex, sensuality and eroticism all require connection. To connect, fully and holistically in the moment, requires you to know from where you stand. It requires you to explore your positionality as a sensual being. If I were ask you to pen a letter to your past self, about your sexual desires, what would that letter look like? If I were ask you to imagine writing a letter to a lover, to describe the ways you wanted to touch their body, what desires would unfold on paper? If I were to ask you to write me a letter, with those painful or sharp edges of your darkness, what would that contain?
"A word after a word after a word is power."
Creating a space for you to write from different perspectives, allows you to peel back different layers of your erotic situation. These can take many forms; letters, poetry, prose, screen plays - whatever piques your creative imagination and makes you burst with excitement, follow that energy! What turns you on? Why does it turn you on? What happens when we write down our sexual fantasies, our sexual blockages? Are there metaphors or other writing techniques that can help you to mould your sexual freedom?
One of Leti’s gifts is her capacity to create a safe and sacred psychic container to receive her clients. She has such a perceptive soul that she was able to give to our relationship precisely what it needed. The result is still unraveling. My partner and I not only reawakened our passion for each other: we also found ourselves in a sea of joy and love brought on by the power of her mirroring.
It may be difficult at first, and is by no means a simple task. Creatively writing about your desires, secrets, needs and longings is an emotional process. Part of what makes this work so powerful is the vulnerability it requires. You have to be ready to embrace your shadow side, to harness the power that lives inside of you.
“We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect.”
Creative writing is a powerful tool, because it externalises our thoughts and feelings. It brings them out of our souls and into the world, where we can examine them. Together we can hold your desires, observe them, touch them. We can feel the weight of them, ask what shapes they take, ask - are these the shapes that I want?
She will not allow you to sneak away from taking charge of your sensuality, yet you will never find a drop of judgment in her words or attitude. She brings light to the shadows, with curiosity, respect, and compassion. In this way, she gives the gifts of awareness, accountability and power. Joining her in these sessions has been such a pleasure. And an honor to have encountered her deep and brilliant mind. She has a glowing heart capable of creating worlds unique and beautiful and a spirit that grounds and informs you. We both feel the desire to hold her in our hearts for the years to come.
“Mi escritura se alimenta de lo más íntimo, aunque eso pueda dejar cicatrices”
Wherever the journey takes you, my sensuality coaching will equip you with the mechanisms to fully expand your sexual, sensual and erotic landscapes. Let’s begin.